GENDER BORN

My Mum had this friend who was a male to female transsexual. She was absolutely brilliant. She was the only person who I know who was more of a misanthrope than me.* But then, she did have more cause.
I saw 'had', because she was found drowned in the canal not far from where she lived. Whether it was suicide or murder or accident no one was sure. Bloody shame, really.
My point? 
A lot of people actively disliked my Mum's friend because she was transgender. Not because of what she'd done.  Because well, it wasn't natural was it? Or normal. All right, if they choose to chop their parts off it's up to them but they're still a man because it's their bits, innit? Men have penises and women have vaginas. Mutilating their bodies don't make them the other sex and no one should be forced into calling them what they aren't. They shouldn't be on their own with little kiddies and they can't  go round expecting people to call 'em 'lady' when they're 'man', or the other way round.
OK, we've established the biggest reason why the majority don't like the idea of people being transgender. Because it isn't normal.
Did you know there is a condition called intersex. Hermaphrodite is the old time word for it. That is, some people have XXY chromosomes or XYY** chromosomes.  There is a veritable cornucopia of  sex hormonal differences, a horn of plenty of XY combinations. XX for female and XY for male are just the most common.
Very, very occasionally you get  people born with two perfectly functioning sets of sex organs, one male, one female.
Mostly, you get those with male organs on the outside and female organs on the inside. Or women with no breasts and large clitorises or men with very tiny penises.
 Or people with ambiguous genitalia, who are XX but it's hard to tell what their gender is by looking at their organs. This condition is subject to plastic surgery, a tidying up process, while the subject is young as possible, to make their outer match their inner self, so to speak.***
You get the idea. The whole business of intersex is fascinating and I could fill pages with what I've learned recently, but this isn't the place. Intersex is a recognised birth defect which can sometimes be cured by surgical intervention, or if not, sometimes the subject needs counselling and understanding to help them be who they are.
But suppose. . .
The defect is not in the sex organs but in the brain.
Suppose a foetus in the womb's brain is swamped with male sex hormones but their body is perfectly XX female? Or the other way round. As soon as the subject is old enough to perceive and understand the difference between little and little girls, they know, it isn't a choice, they aren't doing it because they are spoilt brats or want to annoy everybody, they just know, that they are in the wrong body.
Don't laugh. You wouldn't laugh at someone with Down's syndrome or cerebral palsy or diabetes or cystic fibroses, would you? They're all genetic birth defects. You wouldn't sneer at them and tell them to stop being a brat and wait till they were older for treatment and to live with it.
All right you might. But in that case you are totally horrible and you should remove yourself from the gene pool and not leave any evidence you were ever there behind. I mean it.
Back to this kid with the birth defect where their brain is female and their body is male. Just imagine, what absolute, total hell this kid is going through. They just know everything is wrong and they can't understand why. Most kids with this birth defect know as soon as they are old enough to understand, say two or three, something is terribly wrong, and their body doesn't match with what they are.
Have you, has anyone, the right to pass judgement on this kid, to make out they're going through a phase or don't know what they want, when they have a birth defect that can be corrected with medication and then surgery? To say they have no right to have this defect corrected because it isn't natural in your thinking?
 If a kid is born with an extra nose or eye or an extra limb or develops body hair so by the time they are three they are covered in downy fur, and they beg to have it removed, and their parents get it done, would it be all right for people to refer to them as 'the kid with two noses, she's got one now, but she was born with two and therefore she will always have two noses' or 'he's hairy really, I know he's had his hair removed, but he is a hairy kid, he's just going around pretending to be not hairy'?
So why is it all right to say transgender people are bogus, they are one sex who have chosen to make themselves look like the other.
Think about it.
One more thing: if a person with a birth defect has it corrected by medication and then surgery, why does that make them unfit to be around children? Would you have a problem with someone with any disability which has been corrected babysitting  or teaching your kids? Or is it just because it involves sex on some level?

 *I choose not to get on with people, and everyone I meet I am testing in my mind, waiting for them to do something human so I can jettison them and settle deeper into my personal aloneness, once again proven right. She didn't even wait for them to do anything cruel. They had to do something actively charitable towards her for her to accept them. My Mum got on with her because she likes everyone, is the opposite of a misanthrope, she expects humans to do good things, and gives the human race chance after chance to prove itself. Plus, anyone who doesn't fit into society's idea of norm is all right in my Mum's eyes. After all, she did live with an odd ball for forty years.
**Both the late Richard Speck and very much with us Edmund Kemper are XYY chromosome men, and scientists, backed by the FBI, tried to blame their crimes on this. They didn't succeed because the great majority of XYY men look different than the norm but don't get their jollies from raping women and killing them. Or vice versa. Plus, the massive majority of male serial sex killers are straight XY males.
***Guilty.